Course Description

Hijackal : noun - hīˈjak(ə)l/ - a person who hijacks relationships for his/her own purposes. Then, relentlessly scavenges the relationship for power, status, and control.

This is your best next step towards stopping the crazy-making and saving your sanity when you have a Hijackal® in your life.

Clearly recognizing the crazy-making  behaviors, patterns & cycles of Hijackals  will save you from a lot of stress, pain and hurt.

Whether the Hijackal is your partner, ex, parent, friend, or co-worker, uncovering the traits, patterns, and cycles of Hijackals is essential to putting your finger on exactly WHY they are crazy-making.

That's not always easy to do because you have been worn and torn down, and maybe, are holding on by a thread. I want to help you see what's actually going on.

I'm Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. I created the term "Hijackal" to describe those relentlessly difficult, crazy-making people in life.

Start with this program to really understand the what's, why's, and wherefore's of what is actually happening in this destructive cycle.

What's really required is to not only see their traits, patterns, and cycles, but to realize that you are participating, condoning, and enabling those in some ways. And, I know you want to stop! It's too hard. It's too frustrating. It's too exhausting. It's too confusing, chaotic, and uncertain.

You'll recognize that all that the Hijackal has blamed you for IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Understanding that down to your toes is a such a relief...and, you know you need relief!

So, let's go!


You need to be Seeing The Cycles! 

 

Get valuable perspectives that are hard to see when you're emotionally exhausted and feeling abused.


This self-study program provides clarity, hope and relief.

You'll clearly know:

  •  Why it's not your behavior that's crazy-making
  • You're not wrong
  • Everything is NOT your fault
  • Why you want to believe you can fix the Hijackal
  • Why you cannot fix the Hijackal
  • Why things are highly unlikely to ever change


You're not wrong, bad, foolish, lazy, or crazy. You're caught in the Hijackal Trap.  


What you'll receive: 

  • Valuable insights that will help you right away 
  • Relief from the cycles of crazy-making. 
  • Insights to save your sanity. 
  • Clarity to stop doubting yourself.
  • PLUS a peer-discussion group with others who've taken the course, to connect and share experiences.
 

YOU MATTER! 
Get access to the Seeing the Cycles right now. Get clarity. Start feeling stronger. You're not alone. 

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, offers urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis through consulting, speaking, video, and writing.  She particularly focuses her expertise on the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of relentlessly difficult, disturbing people.  She calls them Hijackals®.Working with people struggling with life, death, and relationship for over thirty years in Canada and the United States, Dr. Shaler has brought hope, comfort, strength, and success to countless people who honestly believed it was impossible. Even the United States Marines have used her services!Dr. Shaler is the author of sixteen personal growth and relationship books. Her most recent ones are to help those struggling with relationships with relentlessly difficult people, aka, Hijackals.

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

The Relationship Help Doctor - Hijackal Expert, Relationship Consultant

Course curriculum

  • 01

    Hallmarks of Hijackals®

    • Starting Quiz: Are These Things Happening in Your Relationship? Could Be Hijackals!

    • Are You Being Verbally Abused?

  • 02

    1. Why Hijackals® Need to Win | Hallmarks Of Hijackals (Video lesson)

    • HIJACKALS HAVE TO WIN

    • The NEED to Win Video

    • Video Transcript

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on The Need to Win

  • 03

    2. Why Hijackals Explode or Implode So Easily | Hallmarks Of Hijackals® (Video Lesson)

    • OUT OF PROPORTION, MIS-MANAGED EMOTIONS

    • VIDEO - Hallmarks of Hijackals - Out of Proportion, Mismanaged Emotions

    • Video Transcript:

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on Out-of-Proportion Emotions

  • 04

    3. Why Hijackals Can't Be Reasonable | Hallmarks Of Hijackals (Video Lesson)

    • ALL-OR-NOTHING, BLACK-AND-WHITE THINKING

    • VIDEO - All or Nothing Thinking

    • Video Transcript:

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on All-or-Nothing Thinking

  • 05

    4. Why You Have To Be Wrong | Hallmarks Of Hijackals® (Video Lesson)

    • BLAMING YOU FOR EVERYTHING

    • VIDEO - Blaming & Guilt

    • Video Transcript

    • My Partner Always Blames Me for Everything. What Do I Do?

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on Blame and Guilt

  • 06

    5. Why Everything Is Your Fault | Hallmarks Of Hijackals® (Video Lesson)

    • ALWAYS FINDING FAULT WITH YOU

    • VIDEO- Fault Finding

    • Video Transcript

    • The Boomerang of Blame: Why Difficult People Make It All Your Fault

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on Fault-Finding

  • 07

    6. What Important Ingredient Hijackals Are Missing | Hallmarks Of Hijackals (Video Lesson)

    • HIJACKALS HAVE A MISSING PIECE

    • VIDEO - Lack of Empathy

    • Video Transcript

  • 08

    7. Why Hijackals Refuse To Take Responsibility | Hallmarks Of Hijackals (Video Lesson)

    • TAKING NO RESPONSIBILITY OR ACCOUNTABILITY

    • VIDEO - Takes No Responsibility

    • Video Transcript

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on Taking No Responsibility

  • 09

    8. Why Hijackals Are So Negative | The Hallmarks Of Hijackals® (Video Lesson)

    • VIEWING EVERYTHING FROM A NEGATIVE PERSPECTIVE

    • VIDEO - Usually Negative

    • Video Transcript

    • 7 Warning Signs & Wake-Up Calls that Your Partner is MORE than Selfish

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on Negative Mindsets

  • 10

    9. Why Hijackals Create Chaos & Uncertainty | Hallmarks Of Hijackals® (Video Lesson)

    • KEEPING THINGS VAGUE, UNCERTAIN & CHAOTIC

    • VIDEO - Ambiguity

    • Video Transcript

    • If You Have "Boundaryitis," You May Feel Like A Doormat.

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on Ambiguity and Uncertainty

  • 11

    10. Why Hijackals Do & Say Things That Make Your Jaw Drop | Hallmarks Of Hijackals® (Video Lesson)

    • INCREDULITY: WHAT THEY SAY OR DO IS SO OUTRAGEOUS

    • VIDEO - Incredulity

    • Video Transcript

    • Self-Study Personal Reflections on Incredulity

  • 12

    What Do I Do If I Recognize I Have a Hijackal® in my Life and Want Things to Change?

    • Are You Living With A High-Conflict Person, a HIjackal®?

    • BEST NEXT STEPS...